Well, I think I shall have to be more patient with them.
I'm not saying I'll always sit back and let them help, but I'll try and be more respectful and positive in my refusal. Why?
Because yesterday I did a 'Good Deed' helping out another disabled person.
I was shopping at a petrol station (M&S food. Mmmm.) and heard someone beep their horn. And again 3 seconds later. Then lots of times in a row. I looked through the door and saw a van with the occupants trying to get the attention of the staff - waving their blue badge and trying to ask for assistance. I went to get a member of staff, but then one walked out past me. I assumed they were going to help. But no. More beeping - I looked out and said staff member had gone off to do their own thing. And still none of the staff were the least bit interested in the beeping or the blue badge being waved at them. This time I accosted a member of staff and politely asked them 'Do you realise that the beeping is someone with a disability asking for assistance?' Staff went to help, problem solved.
And guess what? I felt all good. I'd helped. I felt needed, useful, like a good citizen. And smug. Yes: self-righteous, 'better-than-everyone-else' conceit.
But never fear, the smug delusion quickly shattered as I approached the vehicle and said:
"Hello random stranger, have a business card, you might want to buy my stickers."